Dear Sis B,
Shall I Date A Jobless Bachelor?
May the peace of Christ be with you.
The fact that you are asking me this question tells me that you have second thoughts of seeing or spending time with this guy and financial means is something essential to you. I take your concern with high regard and deep respect. Since we believe that the husband and father is the main financial provider, they must have means to be source of income, ideally.
However, we now live in the age where wife and mothers of the family have full time works and share the financial obligation of the family with the husband or father.
As dating means preparation for the future family and the one you are dating takes the frame of a future spouse, may I now ask you, “What are your dreams and prayers for your future family?”
Should the Lord allow me to be married, I don’t wish to work for another employer and I wish to stay at home and build a source of income from home, an endeavour that would come only secondary to my household obligations. This means that I am counting and praying that in my future plans, the husband is the main provider. I think that is the reason why I have never dated a jobless guy. I never dated when I was still in school.
However, I don’t consider, too, that joblessness is the ultimate criteria for a bachelor NOT to be considered a “qualified” future spouse.
Here are few points you can consider:
1. Does he plan for his good future?
2. Does he act and persevere on his plans?
3. Do you agree on his plans?
Before you respond, please do carefully and prayerfully seek an answer. Ask him with exact words revealing to him your purpose. Please do not be scared to ask and ask with purity of heart. Based on married friends’ stories , this kind of questions encouraged a man with pure and noble intentions to be more intentional in building his finances and not scare him off away from getting himself committed. Again gentleness will send our purpose across.
It is always something I tell to myself and female friends that at one point or two of courtship and even dating period that ladies should continue to be seeking answer and act like you an HR recruiter. After all, you are recruiting a lifetime legal partner.
I believe that when we pray for a spouse with courage (faith), confidence (hope) and God (love) then, we will be led to the right man who will love us, protect us and lead us to our Lord.
Love and Beauty,
Thank you for reading.
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