Dear Sis B, When To Give Up? (Finding The Desire of Your Heart Worthy of Good Fight)


Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.I can sense your frustration but be not because the feeling of frustration will only be for awhile but the grace of the Lord is endless, as our Redeemer lives! (Job 19:25-26)


Where is the heart in your question, sister?

A few years ago I participated in a Catholic singles conference and the theme was “Unstoppable”. Since then on, I claimed the title “unstoppable Benia”, by the grace of the Lord.

First of all, I would like to share a favourite verse, “yet because this widow bothers me, I will vindicate her, or she will wear me out by her continual coming.” Luke 18:5 (RSVCE). This is from the parable of persistent widow by Jesus. Please read Luke 18:1-7.

In your state of frustration, ask yourself if this desire comes from the Lord. What do I mean by it? If the Lord approves the desire of your heart and He created you for this reason. Find the reason of your heart’s desire. If the cause is for your own true happiness and fulfillment, if this is for the sake of humanity, if this is for your own security, then by all means, burn the boat, that boat of retreat. The boat of defeat. I took that line “Burn the boat.” from the chief of rescue team from the movie “Saving Private Ryan”. The troop of soldiers wanted to rescue Private Ryan to bring him alive back to her mother who has already been grieving because of the death of another child.
“Burn the boat and there is no turning back.”
It’s time to wear your tiara like a true queen, with tenderness and courage. Bounce back sister and don’t give up on your heart’s desire! The Lord will never plant that desire in your heart if He would not be supporting you all the way.

I believe you have a vision where your heart’s desire is rooted, so keep the vision but try changing your old ways and seek wisdom to people who already achieved your vision. I know that your heart will be ignited once again when you received guidance from them. And my dear sister, since it’s the Lord who placed the seed of desire in your heart, please keep coming back to Him through prayers and sacraments in every step of the way. He does not only guide but He opens doors. Believe me. Believe Moses and the all the giant of faith, He does.

It’s time to be a lioness, sister, lioness for your dreams, for God’s dream for you. He will be pleased to crown you with victory!

You are in my prayers and who would be you in the near future.

Love and Beauty,

PS. I would like to share the song “Fight Song” by Rachel Platten


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